Dear Bazima: Sometimes I Think 'Maybe Slutbag'
Dear Bazima,I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year, and we are completely in love with each other. I think that he is the man I am going to marry, and I know that he wants to marry me. Would it be a huge mistake to marry the only man I have ever had sex with? Part of me thinks, "No, it's not a bad idea because the sex is amazing." But part of me also thinks, "Hey, being a slutbag looks like a lot of fun sometimes." However, I know I would feel like shit if I slept around because that's not really me.
What's your opinion?
Dear Lady,
First, congratulations on being in love. Second, it is not inherently a mistake to marry the only person you've ever fucked.
There are a couple of reasons one might want to reconsider marrying their one and only. One: You're not really in love. Two: The sex isn't that great and you're itching to see how good it could be. The latter can be improved upon without straying. The former, not so much. You say you're completely in love and the sex is hot. You've only been together for a little over a year and I assume you're on the younger-ish side. I'd say if you're truly committed to this relationship keep your his-and-her panties on. If you really feel like you're missing out in a kind of I want to see what else is out there before I settle down way, do it in as honestly and, um, adulty as possible. And when you're done sewing your wide open oats, maybe this dude will still be there waiting for you. Or maybe you'll find out he wasn't actually The One after all.
Usually, when we're single we wish we had someone (often secretly), and when we're committed we envy the free. It's human nature. Being a slut is fun, but even I wouldn't ruin the love of my life for it. That's right, I said, not even me! Furthermore, who says you have to "sleep around?" For fuck's sake, women get called sluts for hella less. I'm sure you can come up with some creative ways to be a cock monger within your relationship. I don't want to get all Sue Johanson and all, but if you think about it... Well, now I'm horny.
xoxo
Bazima
